Divorce Hurts the Kids

by lindaransonjacobs

Divorce hit the American culture with a Bang in the seventies after Ronald Reagan signed the first no fault divorce law. Approximately a million children a year have experienced the divorce of their parents.

Now children are experiencing the separation of their co-habitating parents. Either way, a divorce or the separation of co-habitating parents, to the child it is the break up of their family unit. With it comes hurt, feelings of betrayal and confusion. 

For 1 in 3 children today in order to say “Hello” to one parent, they have to say “Goodbye” to the to the other parent …. over and over again for the rest of their lives.

These children wonder if they will ever fell normal again. Their world is a world of confusion and frustration. 

Elizabeth MarquardtBetween Two Worlds, research shows that children of divorce learn to
  • Worry about their stuff, because it is often lost in the constant traveling. Children of divorce tend to attach to their things
  • Wonder about religion and God, owing to the mixed message they often receive from their parents’ starkly different worlds
  • Become “chameleons”, because they have to figure out how to act in the different worlds
  • Become vigilant about parental moods; they learn to read body language very well
  • How to handle a parent’s subsequent remarriage and/or divorce or significant others that tend to move in and out

The hope for these children is the church and a relationship with Christ. Yet many of them are being left out or ignored by the church. 

Be a children’s minister that reaches out to these children. The blessings are rich. The work is satisfying and the hugs are phenomenal. 

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